My decision to be a "young" mom
I've heard it a couple times "why rush", "you're so young to be a mom", BLAH BLAH BLAH. So, here I'm going to explain our decision to be young parents (even though I don't owe anyone shit, but I thought it highlights some great points that may get people thinking).
If you know me you know ever since I was little becoming a mom was all I wanted. I saw the amazing moms & grandmothers in my life and I knew life wouldn't be completed until I was one.
Luke and I got married in September 2017, we knew we'd want to start trying soon after this.
My reasons for starting at 24 were simple ; I want to be a young mom, and from being adopted myself I know that sometimes with trying to be a mom comes struggle and I wanted time before I was to old to prepare for this.
My mindset was, try now and if things don't workout naturally I have time to try all the fancy drugs and if all else fails on the conceiving part ; adopt. My parents tried for approx 10 years before they called that quits and adopted my sister and I. At 23 at my wedding I knew 10 years I'd be 34 (simple math) but I didn't want to wait longer than that.
We tried in March and bam pregnant, we were SO grateful. All I ever dreamed about was having these tiny humans in my life that were mine. My blood and my genes. When people say "oh that was so quick", we like to chime in on how thankful we are for being able to conceive because I think in this day it can be taken for granted. Lots of women struggle and I know my mother went through one tough journey and as much as I'm happy she went through it to get us (I'm sad she had to go through it).
So, there it is. Having kids young was for 2 very different but similar in ways reasons. To be young parents hopefully or be young enough to be able to start a journey like my mom and thousands of amazing women have to go through.
AND on a note of this - stop asking couples if or when they are going to have children ; you don't know what they are going through - maybe their trying and having issues and now you are just hurting them more. Be mindful of this, not everyone has it easy and we should be be respectful of this. OR they don't want children or aren't ready, quit frankly it's none of your business ;)
I think when people want to be parents is 100% a personal decision and there is NO right or wrong answer - but for us being young was the right one. We respect all decisions to wait or not even have children.
If you know me you know ever since I was little becoming a mom was all I wanted. I saw the amazing moms & grandmothers in my life and I knew life wouldn't be completed until I was one.
Luke and I got married in September 2017, we knew we'd want to start trying soon after this.
My reasons for starting at 24 were simple ; I want to be a young mom, and from being adopted myself I know that sometimes with trying to be a mom comes struggle and I wanted time before I was to old to prepare for this.
My mindset was, try now and if things don't workout naturally I have time to try all the fancy drugs and if all else fails on the conceiving part ; adopt. My parents tried for approx 10 years before they called that quits and adopted my sister and I. At 23 at my wedding I knew 10 years I'd be 34 (simple math) but I didn't want to wait longer than that.
We tried in March and bam pregnant, we were SO grateful. All I ever dreamed about was having these tiny humans in my life that were mine. My blood and my genes. When people say "oh that was so quick", we like to chime in on how thankful we are for being able to conceive because I think in this day it can be taken for granted. Lots of women struggle and I know my mother went through one tough journey and as much as I'm happy she went through it to get us (I'm sad she had to go through it).
So, there it is. Having kids young was for 2 very different but similar in ways reasons. To be young parents hopefully or be young enough to be able to start a journey like my mom and thousands of amazing women have to go through.
AND on a note of this - stop asking couples if or when they are going to have children ; you don't know what they are going through - maybe their trying and having issues and now you are just hurting them more. Be mindful of this, not everyone has it easy and we should be be respectful of this. OR they don't want children or aren't ready, quit frankly it's none of your business ;)
I think when people want to be parents is 100% a personal decision and there is NO right or wrong answer - but for us being young was the right one. We respect all decisions to wait or not even have children.
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